We are friends offline of this forum, what I would like to do - if you're willing - is for me to visit the person and while there give you a call so you can advise her. Her main concern will be for her child, how to help him, what to do. I've already explained to her the obvious - that she's done all she could - but its a subject matter I'm not very knowledgeable on. She attends meetings and realizes that by helping him with anything that she is enabling him and that he is a manipulator, but is still unable to do anything about it. This woman is a generally nice person and she is getting up there in age and needs to focus on her own health rather than that of her mid-40 year old son who's been an addict for more than three decades.phatmatress777 wrote:But the only way the son will get better is if he wants to... I had to hit rock bottom my family was done with me I was in all sorts of legal troubles I was homeless I was a shitty human being. I would rob swindle and steal whatever I could. I hated the person looking back at me in the mirror. It took a lot of work to get to where I'm at today but it was well worth it. Recovery is something that cannot be forced. If a drug addict doesn't want help they will just simply piss on it and go on about they're addiction. Let the mother know it is possible and to not give up hope but perhaps try some tough love. Idk if she's an enabler but mine were and that really fueled my addiction.
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Yes that would be great I'm working 6 to 6am so we can def set up a time and day and I would be more than happy to speak with her and you and help the best I can. My answers may not be text book responses but I don't believe this a text book problem.Chris Christie wrote:We are friends offline of this forum, what I would like to do - if you're willing - is for me to visit the person and while there give you a call so you can advise her. Her main concern will be for her child, how to help him, what to do. I've already explained to her the obvious - that she's done all she could - but its a subject matter I'm not very knowledgeable on. She attends meetings and realizes that by helping him with anything that she is enabling him and that he is a manipulator, but is still unable to do anything about it. This woman is a generally nice person and she is getting up there in age and needs to focus on her own health rather than that of her mid-40 year old son who's been an addict for more than three decades.phatmatress777 wrote:But the only way the son will get better is if he wants to... I had to hit rock bottom my family was done with me I was in all sorts of legal troubles I was homeless I was a shitty human being. I would rob swindle and steal whatever I could. I hated the person looking back at me in the mirror. It took a lot of work to get to where I'm at today but it was well worth it. Recovery is something that cannot be forced. If a drug addict doesn't want help they will just simply piss on it and go on about they're addiction. Let the mother know it is possible and to not give up hope but perhaps try some tough love. Idk if she's an enabler but mine were and that really fueled my addiction.
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I still have your number if u don't have mine pm on here I'm still on my Facebook ban lol
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Interesting conversation lads. Never have thought about it like this. It gave me a different view that's for certain. Respect.phatmatress777 wrote:Imo any drug person with a history like that would have taken the money... Very odd. ... Drug addicts cause of addictions is because we are selfish self centered egotistical people....Mukremin wrote:Thanks for sharing.
It looks like a personal beef yeah, no known relation to the mob and with a drug past. The drug thing should be enough anyways.
Could it be just the OC squad stumbled upon it while investigating?
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Yes something is very strange about the case regardless even if it was a hired hit... Wouldn't the murderer take the 15 grand as an added bonus? Why leave the money it just makes no sense to me.... Perhaps the leaving of the money is a message or something like that... It just seems highly unlikely that a drug addict would just kill like that and leave the money? Was he instructed to leave the money and paid more by organized crime ???? Lots of loose ends I thinkMukremin wrote:Interesting conversation lads. Never have thought about it like this. It gave me a different view that's for certain. Respect.phatmatress777 wrote:Imo any drug person with a history like that would have taken the money... Very odd. ... Drug addicts cause of addictions is because we are selfish self centered egotistical people....Mukremin wrote:Thanks for sharing.
It looks like a personal beef yeah, no known relation to the mob and with a drug past. The drug thing should be enough anyways.
Could it be just the OC squad stumbled upon it while investigating?
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They could have freaked out and just split without the money when he realized he just shot and killed someone. People that have never killed before all act differently. Its possible he just freaked out and split and it was suppose to be a robbery. He is not cooperating so who knows? I don't think its OC related though.phatmatress777 wrote:Imo any drug person with a history like that would have taken the money... Very odd. ... Drug addicts cause of addictions is because we are selfish self centered egotistical people....Mukremin wrote:Thanks for sharing.
It looks like a personal beef yeah, no known relation to the mob and with a drug past. The drug thing should be enough anyways.
Could it be just the OC squad stumbled upon it while investigating?
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Very true... Guess we will have to wait and see what comes of everythingRocco wrote:They could have freaked out and just split without the money when he realized he just shot and killed someone. People that have never killed before all act differently. Its possible he just freaked out and split and it was suppose to be a robbery. He is not cooperating so who knows? I don't think its OC related though.phatmatress777 wrote:Imo any drug person with a history like that would have taken the money... Very odd. ... Drug addicts cause of addictions is because we are selfish self centered egotistical people....Mukremin wrote:Thanks for sharing.
It looks like a personal beef yeah, no known relation to the mob and with a drug past. The drug thing should be enough anyways.
Could it be just the OC squad stumbled upon it while investigating?
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Rocco wrote:They could have freaked out and just split without the money when he realized he just shot and killed someone. People that have never killed before all act differently. Its possible he just freaked out and split and it was suppose to be a robbery. He is not cooperating so who knows? I don't think its OC related though.phatmatress777 wrote:Imo any drug person with a history like that would have taken the money... Very odd. ... Drug addicts cause of addictions is because we are selfish self centered egotistical people....Mukremin wrote:Thanks for sharing.
It looks like a personal beef yeah, no known relation to the mob and with a drug past. The drug thing should be enough anyways.
Could it be just the OC squad stumbled upon it while investigating?
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Agreed. That's what I was thinking when reading through the thread. He could've just been spooked.