by B. » Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:35 pm
HairyKnuckles wrote: ↑Sat Dec 28, 2019 1:25 pm
Sorry to hear that B. Losing a close family member is tough. And I fear the day when losing my parents comes. I´m very close to them and they are getting up there in age. My dad is 85, but still strong as an ox. He has been my inspiration for 49 years now, My mom is 75 and has had a couple of strokes. She hangs on but is not the same person she used to be. A wise man once told me that infortunately, we have to accept death as part of life.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.
Yep, death is inevitable and it is much better to lose a parent than for a parent to lose their child. I would take this deal anytime over my Mom having lost me first. I realized in all of this, too, that I've been grieving the loss of my Mom in advance for all 34 years of my life and I think that's just something we do when we love someone and fear losing them. Now that I'm on the other side of that grief, the reality, it is a powerful and transformative experience.
My Mom had a stroke three years ago and it was in some ways more difficult than this. She bounced back strong from it, but seeing her independence taken from her even temporarily was not easy. The infection took her quickly this time and I'm grateful it was a relatively quick process without prolonged suffering.
Glad you are close to your parents. Not everyone has that privilege, as someone mentioned earlier, and having a good relationship has made the loss easier. Along the lines of what Bronx was saying, knowing that this is not "it", and feeling her presence is something I've already experienced. What a life it is that we get to live.
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Sorry to hear that B. Losing a close family member is tough. And I fear the day when losing my parents comes. I´m very close to them and they are getting up there in age. My dad is 85, but still strong as an ox. He has been my inspiration for 49 years now, My mom is 75 and has had a couple of strokes. She hangs on but is not the same person she used to be. A wise man once told me that infortunately, we have to accept death as part of life.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.
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Yep, death is inevitable and it is much better to lose a parent than for a parent to lose their child. I would take this deal anytime over my Mom having lost me first. I realized in all of this, too, that I've been grieving the loss of my Mom in advance for all 34 years of my life and I think that's just something we do when we love someone and fear losing them. Now that I'm on the other side of that grief, the reality, it is a powerful and transformative experience.
My Mom had a stroke three years ago and it was in some ways more difficult than this. She bounced back strong from it, but seeing her independence taken from her even temporarily was not easy. The infection took her quickly this time and I'm grateful it was a relatively quick process without prolonged suffering.
Glad you are close to your parents. Not everyone has that privilege, as someone mentioned earlier, and having a good relationship has made the loss easier. Along the lines of what Bronx was saying, knowing that this is not "it", and feeling her presence is something I've already experienced. What a life it is that we get to live.